This past weekend we hosted two of our dearest friends as they stopped to spend the night on their move down to Florida from Connecticut. We have known J.and A. since college. They both grew up in Connecticut and lived there all their lives. Their children were born and raised there and all but one still live there. Yet, with retirement, they decided to have an adventure. They bought a condo in Florida, within walking distance of the beach, and will put their house in Connecticut on the market this spring. They will look for a small place to buy in Connecticut once their house sells. They plan on spending all the cold months in Florida and all the warm months in Connecticut. This will be the first time they have lived in another state.
I have this image of them this weekend when we were chatting over coffee at the breakfast table before they got back on the road. They were like two kids, excited about their new life. J was sitting on A’s lap and he had his arms around her waist. It was not unlike an image I have of them when we were young couples together. During breakfast J mentioned that George and I had had our share of adventures. We left Connecticut to live in Philadelphia for a couple of years, and then we moved to Texas for nearly twenty-nine. Now we are living in Virginia. This would be their first time to go so far, and they would only have each other to lean on. I could tell that they would not need anyone else. In fact, I know they are relishing the idea of just the two of them in paradise.
They have spent all their adult years caring for children and elderly parents. Their life has been rich with family, friends, and satisfying jobs. Some people may ask why they are so willing to give that all up and move far away, but my husband and I get it so well. When you have a good marriage, like they do, sometimes you long for time with just each other, far from the responsibilities that keep your minds on things other than each other. Sure, J and A cite economic reasons, and that certainly was the major incentive for making such a momentous, life-changing move. That, and not wanting to suffer through another Connecticut winter! But underneath those reasons, George and I know what the driving force was. They want an adventure, one where they are the featured characters. The only characters for awhile. How romantic!