This morning I read a “Dear Abby” advice column and wholeheartedly disagree with Abby’s advice. A woman calling herself “Foxy” wrote in complaining about her husband who no longer wanted to engage in swinging. They have been married for ten years, and early in their marriage they decided to try swinging. According to her letter, they had many enjoyable experiences, but now her husband no longer wants to engage in that activity. Because this woman so passionately wants to continue swinging and her husband wants no part of it, Abby agreed that divorce was probably the only way to go.
Now, just because my husband and I are in our sixties doesn’t mean we don’t know a thing or two about swinging. In fact, we used to swing ourselves and found it quite enjoyable, though we weren’t very good at it. We even took lessons. Three times. But I guess, like anything you want to be good at, you need to do it a lot, and it was hard to find opportunities. I’d like to try it again, though, and maybe, with practice, get better at it.
As enjoyable as swinging is, to advise divorce for this couple is way off base. If her husband no longer wants to swing, there are many other similar activities they could try to keep the excitement in their marriage. Ballroom dancing might be less strenuous, for example, but still offer the benefit of exercise. Admittedly, swing dancing can be strenuous if you aren’t physically up to it. I don’t know why Abby didn’t suggest that first instead of something so drastic. Or am I missing something here? We are talking about dancing, aren’t we?
- Dear Abby: Swinging wife: ditch lifestyle or husband (goerie.com)