Because you live so far away, and when I come for a visit, so much is going on, it seems that you and I never have a moment alone so I can tell you just what I think of you and how important you are to our family. I thought right now might be a good time.
Our daughter is an amazing woman, as you already know. She is passionate in everything she does. She is so much like her father used to be, with his lists and organization and planning, that it scares me. Her dad has mellowed with age, but our daughter never seems to be able to slow down. You bring a sense of abandonment to her life that she needs. You give her permission to be spontaneous and frivolous once in awhile. In other words, you bring balance to her life.
Our daughter is so very loving and giving, and she married a man who is her equal in that. It is not hard to love your family, but to carry a burden in your heart for humanity is an unusual thing these days. When the two of you see a need in your community, you don’t weigh the cost before you rush to meet that need. You are both such wonderful examples to your children.
You are an incredible father to those two beautiful girls. You know when you need to be strong, and when it’s okay to be a softee. You give them the support they need without taking away their opportunities for self-expression and growth. You, the rugged he-man, are even learning to understand girlee, teen-age angst and deal with it patiently. I know you are only on the cusp of that, but I have no doubt that you will master it as well as anyone can.
You are exactly the kind of husband your father-in-law and I wished for our daughter to have. You love her unconditionally. I watch the way you look at her and hear the way you talk to her, and I know that you see her as the treasure her father and I have always known she is. Thank you for loving our daughter so much that there is nowhere else on earth she’d rather be than by your side.
Oh, and one last thing, D. I love you because I know that you will sit down with your old mother-in-law when she visits this weekend and watch the Final Four with her when no one else will. Thanks, Son. And Go Huskies!