Autumn officially arrives this weekend, and at this time of year I always think of my father. One of his favorite songs was Frank Sinatra’s rendition of It Was a Very Good Year. When I was a young woman, Dad would tell me he was in the autumn of his life, and it made me sad because all I could think about was winter was around the corner for him.
Now that I am in the autumn of my life, I don’t find it sad, though I have to admit to occasional wistful longings for days of my youth. I understand Dad more. It is a contemplative time of life. Finally, we have time to ponder. We are not busy raising families, building our professions, saving for houses. Though many of us are still working, we know our careers are winding down. We no longer think about “getting ahead” but “staying the course.”
It seems like only yesterday I was wishing for warming days of spring and the hot days of summer. I turned around, and fall is on my doorstep. It seems like only yesterday I was a young woman wanting to get married and have a houseful of children. I turned around and that marriage took place nearly 42 years ago, and those children are long grown and gone.
This autumn season is a wonderful season of my life in many ways. But it is also short, and winter is indeed ready to knock on my door. So I want to savor it like vintage wine. I want to sip each day and find something good in it. Like the glorious colored leaves that will be on the trees in a few weeks, I want to adorn my place in this world with a burst of color, a burst of passion. I want to make this a very good year.
LYRICS TO IT WAS A VERY GOOD YEAR:
IT WAS A VERY GOOD YEAR (Ervin Drake)
When I was seventeen, it was a very good year
It was a very good year for small town girls
And soft summer nights
We’d hide from the lights
On the village green
When I was seventeen
When I was twenty-one, it was a very good year
It was a very good year for city girls
Who lived up the stairs
With perfumed hair
That came undone
When I was twenty-one
When I was thirty-five, it was a very good year
It was a very good year for blue-blooded girls
Of independent means
We’d ride in limousines
Their chauffeurs would drive
When I was thirty-five
But now the days are short, I’m in the autumn of my years
And I think of my life as vintage wine
From fine old kegs
From the brim to the dregs
It poured sweet and clear
It was a very good year












